EXPERT ADVICE

Expert Tips for Couples Traveling Together

Eight couples share ideas on how to make the most of traveling together.

Julie Delpy and Adam Goldberg in 2 Days in Paris (courtesy Fox Home Entertainment)

1. Communicate "Find your own phrase to say to support your partner when you don't have the privacy you want or when life on the road is getting you down. For instance, a simple 'Good morning' can mean 'I love you.' " John Mock and Kimberley O'Neil, authors, Lonely Planet Hiking in the Sierra Nevada

2. Stay amused "Play silly games. Like 'Which movie star does that driver we just passed look like?' Such pointless fun alleviates the kind of boredom that sooner or later leads to pointless arguments." Jane and Michael Stern, authors, Roadfood

3. Indulge "While traveling cheaply through Italy, Larry decided we should experience Positano as it was meant to be enjoyed. We checked into a nice hotel and had a totally elegant dinner. That bit of luxury made everything else better." Lin and Larry Pardey, authors, The Care and Feeding of Sailing Crew

4. Pace yourselves "Six places in eight days is not interesting. When you slow down, you discover where you need to work together. Travel can be the renewal of a relationship." Jeffrey Alford and Naomi Duguid, authors, Mangoes & Curry Leaves: Culinary Travels Through the Great Subcontinent

5. Go solo "You don't have to spend every minute together. On a trip to London, we set aside an afternoon to shop on our own for jewelry and music. After a few hours of exploring alone, it's fun to regroup and share your adventures." Paris Permenter and John Bigley, editors, Lovetripper.com

6. Do not disturb "Different sleeping patterns may not be a problem at home, but when you're in the relatively confined space of a hotel room, they can make life hard. Bring earphones for watching television and eye masks for the light." Tim and Nina Zagat, founders, Zagat Survey

7. Chill out "You have to learn to roll with the punches. If we're starving and driving each other crazy, and there's no restaurant for another 70 miles, we can either get a chocolate bar at a gas station, or we can stick it out." Jason Edward Hammel and Kori Gardner Hammel, musicians, Mates of State

8. Make special plans "Create surprising little gifts out of the mundane: 'Honey, I rented us a car with a stick shift!' or 'Guess what, we're flying direct!' Your partner will then feel as if you've taken his or her preferences into account." Jessie Morgan-Owens and James Owens, photographers

Note:This story was accurate when it was published. Please be sure to confirm all rates and details directly with the companies in question before planning your trip.
 

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