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Stressing over the bill is no way to end a fantastic meal at a Roman trattoria. You'll have a smoother experience interacting with locals in restaurants, taxis, and hotels if you're familiar with Italian etiquette. The most renowned book of manners, The Galateo, dates to the 16th century, but since they didn't have taxis back then, I consulted Sabrina Carollo's recent Galateo per tutte le occasioni (Etiquette for All Occasions) as a starting point. She recommends leaving a mancia (tip) for these customer-service professionals: theater ushers, porters, waiters, housekeeping staff, taxi drivers, and hairdressers. At restaurants, Carollo suggests adding at least 10 to 15 percent to the bill, but that strikes me as very generous by typical Italian standards. I took an informal poll of Italian friends on Facebook and most commented that they tip waiters less—between 5 to 10 percent—or they simply don't tip period. This is mainly because they say that they are already charged a coperto, which covers expenses like the price of bread, cleaning linens, oil and other condiments, plus a servizio fee. The servizio, which goes towards paying the waitstaff, is often not listed on the bill at all but rather already factored into the price of your meal. To investigate further, I called two of my favorite Roman restaurants: La Campana (011-39/06-687-5273, vicolo della Campana, 18) and La Taverna dei Fori Imperiali (011-39/066-798-643, via della Madonna dei Monti, 9) in Monti. I found that the servizio is actually not always included in the price of the meal and that some restaurant owners no longer charge a coperto. La Taverna dei Fori Imperiali, for example, said they do not charge either fee. Rather they charge for bread and leave tipping to "the discretion of their clients." My Italian father-in-law, an all-around classy guy, says he keeps in mind how elegant or casual the place is, the age of who is serving you and also whether you are being served by the business owner, waiter or a waiter-in training. He feels a 10 percent gratuity is a more-than-generous tip for any meal. "Sometimes the generosity of the tip may also depend on the cash I take around," my father-in-law adds. "Since in almost every restaurant in Italy, it is impossible to tip by credit card." In taxis, most Italians don't pay tips at all, unless they know the driver took you on the fastest route possible. In that case, if you are feeling generous, you just round the bill up and tell him to keep the change. There are no hard-and-fast rules, but here are my personal recommendations for what to tip in 6 scenarios. • Pizzeria: €1 for each person, unless you are alone, then leave €2 or €3 • Restaurant: About 5 to 10 percent • Taxi: Round the bill up, if you're feeling generous and the taxi driver took the short route • Hairdresser: About 5 to 10 percent • Hotel porters: €1 to €5 • Bar: Maximum €2 And remember that it is perfectly okay to abstain, if you are not happy with the service provided—waiters are paid a living wage, and the expectations for tipping are lower in Italy than in America. MORE ON ETIQUETTE A Guide to Tipping in 10 Countries (PDF) Menu Decoder: Translations of Italian Food Terms and Popular Dishes

Visitors interested in checking out Haight Street, famous for its role in the 1960s hippie heyday, should pick up a copy of the Haight Ashbury Map and Guide, by longtime Haight residents Jack and Gay Reineck (and published by Rufus Graphics). Too often a trip to the Haight only involves a stop at the famous Haight Ashbury intersection, a trip to Amoeba to flip through records, and a somewhat kitchy souvenir, like a tie-dye T-shirt at a head shop (for the uninitiated, a head shop sells smoking paraphernalia). But with this guide, you can see beyond the surface of the Haight area. The book offers historical and cultural information and photographs from 1906 and beyond, with extensive coverage about the 1960s, including the music, social activism, drug scene, sexual revolution, and the media's sensationalization of the Flower Children. In addition to historical content, the tome also includes a full guide to all the shops, restaurants, walking tours, and restrooms (important when traveling!) in the area, as well as public-transportation information. Some of the highlights include the former homes to celebrities like the Hell's Angels (719 Ashbury), Janis Joplin, and Hunter S. Thomspon (318 Parnassus). The map includes information about local murals, current celebs in the area (including Craig Newmark, the founder of Craigslist), and the best spot to see the wild parrots in the summer (around Parnassus and Willard Streets). Pick up a copy at Booksmith, an independent bookstore on Haight, or pre-order it online. ($8.95) MORE ON SAN FRANCISCO Quiz: 12 Things You Don't Know About San Francisco San Francisco's Best Street Food San Francisco: 8 Perspectives on the Most Beautiful City