Trip Coach: August 22, 2006

August 22, 2006
John Bigley and Paris Permenter, authors of "The Destination Wedding Workbook," answered your questions about destination weddings

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: Greetings! We're Paris Permenter and John Bigley, a husband-wife team of travel writers specializing in romantic travel. We look forward to answering your questions about destination weddings so let's get started...

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Dallas, TX: I'm considering a Las Vegas wedding but want something other than the Elvis ceremony that I usually associate with Vegas weddings. Are there more elegant options in the city?

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: That's a sure bet! Las Vegas has an increasingly large number of elegant options (although the city still offers plenty of small--even drive-through--wedding chapels as well). The casino hotels are home to some of the most elegant wedding venues in town. One of our favorites is the Bellagio; along with wedding chapels at the hotel, you can opt for a small wedding outdoors with the famous Bellagio fountains as your backdrop. You'll be able to select your music and the "dance" for the fountains, all timed to go off as you seal the marriage with a kiss. Another good option for small ceremonies is the top of Paris Las Vegas's Eiffel Tower, a beautiful choice with the city as a backdrop. For something very unusual, check out the pirate wedding at TI (formerly known as Treasure Island); "pirates" play a role in the wedding and can serve as ringbearer or even give the bride away. And if you'd like an historic touch to the ceremony, Excalibur has Renaissance costumes to transform you into a princess bride.

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Eudora, KS: Our daughter is having a destination wedding May 26 in Mexico (Mayan Riviera). We will have aprox. 40 people attending. How do we arrange for get-togethers while we are there without incurring more expenses? We want to be able to meet and have good times together, but not spend more money since most everybody is on a budget.

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: If all the guests will be staying at the same resort, your job will be simple. Your daughter will be able to work with the concierge to arrange special activities for the group which can range from a cocktail party to beach volleyball to a charter tour of the region (and you will qualify for group rates with many operators).
 
If the guests are divided up across several resorts, especially all-inclusives, check into the possibility of purchasing day passes. Many all-inclusives sell day passes so that non-guests may experience the property for the day which would then allow you to set up activities on property. (Night passes are also available at some properties.)
 
Also, look to some of the larger attractions in the area such as Xcaret as a possible day trip. Again, be sure to check for group rates.
 
Finally, a nice touch is to put an itinerary in each guest's room, outlining the weekend's activities, suggested dress, pickup time, what to bring, etc.

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Rincon Beach Resort in Anasco, PR: I am getting married on March 31, 2007 at Rincon Beach Resort in Anasco, PR. My family and I are from Puerto Rico and wanted it there for that reason, although we (and the groom and family) live in the US. I am looking to have a small wedding of less than 50 people. I am 33 and the groom is 34 years old. I was looking for help on finding a florist, photographer and videographer as the hotel does not provide that. How do you recommend that I search for good and reputable ones since we don't live there or know many people there? This is a once in a lifetime opportunity and I wanted to get it right and have no regrets. Thank you!

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. When the bride and groom don't live close enough to the wedding location for a pre-wedding site inspection, it can be especially important to hire the services of a local wedding planner. Although it might seem like the stuff of the rich and famous, you can talk with a local wedding planner about hiring her simply as a consultant for advice on local vendors. If your budget allows, you can hire the wedding planner for more extensive work including working with the vendors (and following up to make sure all will be in place for the event, especially important if your time on island will be brief before your wedding.) Best wishes!

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Seattle, WA: If the bride's family was originally considering a traditional wedding, then changes to a destination wedding, who typically pays for the grandparents, groom's family, etc. to attend (airfare, hotel, etc.)?

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: Typically everyone pays his or her own way to a destination wedding although, when finances allow, the bride and groom sometimes cover expenses for a special family member or a member of the wedding party who might not otherwise be able to attend.
 
One way you can assist with the cost factor is to try to secure group discounts whenever possible. Talk with airlines and hotels about group discounts; guests will generally need to make their reservations through a special group booking number.

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Knoxville, TN: Can you offer suggestions on islands or tropical locations that are tolerant of same sex union ceremonies? We are planning to make some sort of committment in the next few months and enjoy cruising and traveling through the carribean including Puerto Rico.

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: Attitudes about same sex union ceremonies vary greatly from island to island within the Caribbean so your best bet for a ceremony is to look to the gay-friendly islands in the region. The US Virgin Islands (especially St. Croix), Sint Maarten, the Dominican Republic, Costa Rica, and Puerto Rico are all good choices.

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Lake Forest, IL: We are trying to find a beach wedding location that isn't tuned to the tourist dollar or the wedding price-hike effect but which isn't on the other side of the planet (we love Zanzibar but cannot ask everyone to fly there). Every place we look at in Mexico, the Caribbean, and Florida is outrageously expensive, or seems like a deal until you start adding on all the "extras." Is there any such thing as a truly "secret" wedding destination place that isn't upmarketed by advertisements from Bridal magazines or other media sources that make it turn overnight into a high-end claim to wedding fame?

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: It's tough to find a "hidden" destination in North America these days and, when you do find an out of the way property or remote island, you can often expect to pay extra charges in terms of transportation.
 
Our suggestion: look to off season for good deals. If you have your heart set on a resort that you think might be out of your budget, ask about off season rates which are often less than half the high season rate. In the Caribbean, off season means mid-April through mid-December with the very cheapest rates falling during the height of hurricane season: September and October. Remember, however, that the region is a large one. Also, ask your resort about hurricane guarantees in case a storm interrupts your wedding plans. 
 
Also, consider less-visited locations on popular islands. For example, while Jamaica's Montego Bay and Ocho Rios are tops with bridal travelers, look to the quieter South Coast for small properties. You'll still have the benefit of low airfare thanks to the large number of tourists but you'll have the benefits of a smaller property.

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Davie, FL: We have a destination wedding in Bodega Bay, California on Labor Day weekend. While we are there what should we do aside from the wineries?

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: Save time for a walk on the beach (or even catch a wave if you can sneak away from the wedding festivities long enough.) There are many good art galleries in the region and the Charles M. Schulz Museum and Research Center in Santa Rosa is a fun option if there are kids (or just "Peanuts" fans) in the wedding group.

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Englewood, NJ: If you are attending a destination wedding, (air, hotel, car rental) and you have bought a substantial gift from the registry, are you still require to give a $ gift at the wedding?

John Bigley & Paris Permenter: No; a gift from the registry counts as your gift (and oftentimes, the gift of your presence is all that's expected and hoped for at a destination wedding).

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John Bigley & Paris Permenter: Well, it's about time to wrap up. Thanks for all your questions. You can always find us over at Lovetripper.com and our new Texas travel site, TexasTripper.com. Happy travels! Paris & John

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Table of Contents: September 2006

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Real Life Snakes on a Plane

Has there ever been an animal loose on a Frontier flight? Beyond the occasional rowdy unaccompanied minor, no. However, we did recently ship a six-foot-long albino alligator to the Los Angeles Zoo, but he was in the cargo hold. There's also a story that's circulated that we once had a ferret that got loose in the cabin, and that we cornered him in the aft lavatory. However, we don't allow animals in the cabin (we used to, but not any longer because of allergies, etc,). So, the ferret was essentially "illegal," and as a result, to the best of our knowledge no one claimed him. The flight attendants actually took the ferret with them on the overnight (last flight of the night). They kept him in the bathroom all night with some water and veggies, brought him back to Denver the next day, and turned him in. What should someone do if he or she finds a snake in a cabin? First, to be clear, our FAA-approved manual says that "rodents, reptiles, amphibians, snakes, spiders, and insects are not accepted in the cabin for any reasons." However, since we know that passengers don't always follow the rules, the first suggestion would be to very calmly and quietly alert your flight attendant to your concerns. Second, do not open the door to usher the snake out while in flight. It might sound like a good idea, but trust us--it's not! Finally, depending on the size of the snake, you could capture him in a barf bag, or possibly remove your luggage from the overhead bin, remove all your items from your luggage, and capture him in a suitcase. What would you do if you saw a snake slither down the cabin aisle? First, lift my feet up. Second, request another cocktail from the flight attendant-- immediately! Are flight attendants trained to handle animal and reptile attacks? Not specifically. They're more concerned with human attacks in this day and age. But I've seen some of our flight attendants handle some tough situations, and suffice it to say, the reptiles don't stand a chance against a Frontier flight attendant. What's the most unusual animal you've ever had to transport? Apparently we transported two serval cats on their way to Indonesia that flew part way on us. The mating pair was reported to be worth over $250,000. And of course, the recent transport of the albino alligator from Orlando to the L.A. Zoo. Would you ever make a snake one of your airplane-tail characters? Why or why not? While we certainly love all animals, the snake lacks that "Frontier look." When editors of Vogue choose the next cover model, they're in search of "the look," and for us, snakes just don't have what we're looking for. That said, if we found a furry, friendly snake, we might have to reconsider. But I'm not familiar with any that fit that mold. Related links: How to Handle 10 Travel Emergencies Outdoor Summer Survival Guide

Trip Coach: August 15, 2006

Christine Brown: Greetings! My name is Christine Brown and I work for AAA here in Washington, DC. I'm excited to help you with some of your travel questions, so let's get started... _______________________ New York City, NY: Our daughter will drive a car from NYC to LA on Aug. 31, and she's wondering where to stop along the way so she doesn't get too tired. Christine Brown: One of the most important things to remember when you're on a long road trip: take lots of breaks! Driving while tired is almost as dangerous as driving while intoxicated, so don't take any chances. Take a break every couple of hours, even if you don't feel extremely tired. Just get out & walk around the car a few times, or go to the restroom... that'll get your blood moving & give your brain a break from the monotony of the road in front of you. Always be sure to choose someplace safe when you stop. Keep going if there's no one around, if there's poor lighting, or if you just don't have a good feeling about the place. Better safe than sorry! _______________________ St. Paul, MN: We are planning a road trip at the end of September from Minnesota to Pittsburgh, PA to visit family. We need to rent a vehicle. We'd like something economical, yet comfortable for the long drive with our 6 month old daughter. Any suggestions? Thanks. Laura Christine Brown: Safety is the number one factor here, especially since you'll be traveling with a small child. Try a Kia Sportage if you're looking for a true "economy" car (they tend to be pretty compact), or if you'd like something a little roomier, see if your rental company has a Ford Fusion. Both cars are reliable and great for families with kids. Speaking of child safety, always be sure to put your child in a car seat (or booster seat if they're over 40 lbs)! _______________________ Harbor City, CA: Our Mission: Visit all 48 contiguous states. Date of attempt: Summer 2007. Time Limit: 10 Days. Method of Transportation: Chevy Surburban. Our Request: We need help planning the shortest,fastest, most efficient route. P.S. We have already visited CA, WA, OR, ID, WY, NV, UT, AZ, NM, TX, and OK. Christine Brown: That's quite a mission, HC -- an average of over 3 states per day! And with the average price of regular unleaded gas at almost $3.00 per gallon, driving such a large SUV could also mean mega bucks at the pump. I'd suggest checking out an online mapping service that allows you to enter in where you'd like to stop. If you're a AAA member, check out aaamaps.com for an online TripTik®. _______________________ Chicago, IL: Hi, I am getting married in Toronto on Sept. 2nd, and then heading out on a honeymoon the next afternoon. We are on a tight budget, but friends of ours have generously offered to loan us their summer-home on Prince Edward Island (near Souris), and we are planning on driving from Toronto. Monday the 4th we will be staying in Quebec city, but are trying to figure out where to stay the next night before arriving in P.E.I. Do you have any suggestions for a good place to stopover (even a particularly cute hotel or bed and breakfast)? Or, perhaps you know of a particularly scenic or interesting route? All tips would be appreciated. Thanks, Amber Christine Brown: Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Try the Carriage House Inn in Fredericton. It's a historic bed & breakfast built in 1875. Or The Colonel's In Bed and Breakfast (also in Fredericton) may be a good choice for you if you're into the B&B/Inn atmosphere. Be sure to call ahead to make reservations. There are lots of hotels, inns, and B&B's listed in AAA's TourBook® guides, which are free to AAA members, so check it out. Or contact the Nova Scotia or P.E.I. Bureau of Tourism for more suggestions - that's what they're there for. Enjoy your honeymoon! _______________________ Asheville, NC: What are the best routes from Asheville, NC to New Bedford, MA? Do you know the approximate time it will take to drive? Christine Brown: It will take you approximately 14 ½ hours to make the almost 900 mile trip from Asheville to New Bedford. There are lots of ways to go, but I'll give you the most direct route. Also, Internet TripTiks® give alternate routes through aaamaps.com if you're interested. Take US-70 W/ I-240 W to US-19 N/ US-23 N toward Weaverville. Merge onto US-26 W, then take Exit 46A onto I-81 N. Stay on I-81 N for about 315 miles, take Exit 300 to get on I-66 E towards Fort Royal/Washington. Take Exit 64B onto I-495 N / Baltimore, then take Exit 27 onto I-95 N / Baltimore. Take I-295 N, which will turn into US-40 E, which turns into the New Jersey Turnpike. Take a slight left at the fork towards I-95 N, then take Exit 20 to get on I-195 E towards US-6 E / East Providence /Cape Cod. Take Exit 15 to get on RT-18 S towards downtown. Take exit towards US-6 / Dartmouth/Fairhaven. Enjoy your trip! _______________________ Wappingers Falls, NY: We are planning an East Coast to West Coast road trip for summer 2007. Our family includes two adults and a set of boy/girl twins who will be approaching their 14th birthday as our road trip approaches. Our current plan is to rent a station wagon type car or a van, camp for two or three nights then stay in a hotel as we travel through the northern states, visiting National Parks and other sites to learn more of American history. We hope to include some adventure travel also. Once we get to the West Coast we plan to fly home. We have at least 14 days for this trip. We can not agree on an ending point. Should we aim for Washington, Oregon or Northern California? Christine Brown: Sounds like your family is up for quite an adventure! I love Northern California, and there are lots of options when you're trying to figure out which airport to fly out of. Enjoy the northern portion of our beautiful country! Be sure to stop and see the Redwood National Park -- the immense, petrified trees are breathtaking. _______________________ Potomac, MD: My husband and I are leaving for Milan, Italy Sept. 5 and returning the 19th. We are renting a car. The places we want to visit are the Lake District, Cinque Terre and Tuscany. What route would you take that would use time the most wisely, and so that we backtrack as little as possible? What places should we stop for the night? Christine Brown: That's something you need to talk to a travel agent about one-on-one. But be sure you have an International Driver Permit before you leave the States! And don't forget your regular Driver License as well -- the IDP doesn't take its place. _______________________ Tucson, AZ: Hi, Christine! My husband and I are taking a road trip into NB, and Nova Scotia in September-October. We will be taking the CAT ferry back into the states, from Nova Scotia. Will we have to worry about a long line for customs coming back into the states from the ferry? We aren't sure how the proceedings go at this point. Thanks a lot! Christine Brown: Here's a link to the Cat Ferry website. You should be able to get some pretty detailed information about what to expect there catferry.com. Enjoy your trip! _______________________ Christine Brown: That's all the time I have for today. Thanks for tuning in! If I didn't get to your question, my apologies. I'd recommend talking to a travel agent or the Bureau of Tourism for your destination. It's been fun! Be sure to check out aaa.com for member discounts, the fuel cost calculator, online mapping, trip planning, insurance and more. Safe Travels! Christine _______________________